Do you believe that you need to work hard to achieve success?
But what if you are already putting in more hours than anyone else, sacrificing other parts of your life to get ahead all the while fearing you are not enough or that someone is going to find you the ‘failure’ or ‘fraud’ you believe yourself to be?
It’s not about working harder but working smarter. I understand what this feels like having gone through it not once but many times………
….. a high achiever and a recovering perfectionist.
I remember being offended the day my colleague called me a perfectionist. I was indignant, feeling that no one appreciated how much time and effort I put into things and how I overthought everything before taking action.
It did wake me up to the excessively high standards I had for myself.
Failure was not an option I cared to experience. Because I was always looking for the next challenge, wanting to expand my abilities and experiences, I often found myself learning new roles that challenged my confidence and highlighted my insecurities.
Being a woman in business, I believed if I didn’t take on everything that was asked of me, others would think that I wasn’t up for the job.
After experiencing burnout on more than one occasion, I started reading about coping strategies. But it wasn’t until I experienced a significant setback in my private life that I realised if I wanted to change, I needed to change the way I thought about life, which included examining my beliefs, limiting patterns and negative self-talk.
Can you relate to any of this?